The journey of self-love

Allow me to introduce this topic with an example. Imagine yourself talking to a person that drains you. You don’t notice it yet, though there is a voice inside you that signals a boundary. You unconsciously choose to ignore this boundary and the action you should take because it has become an egoic program to ignore your needs for someone else’s sake. After a while your body sends you stronger signals, this time it sends loneliness. In an attempt to escape from this feeling or emotion you try to bond even more with the person you are talking to. What you didn’t understand is that the feeling of loneliness (in this case) was a result of not seeing yourself. Since you don’t connect with yourself, your attempt to get close to someone else is not going to work. On top of that it is also the wrong person you invest time in. Eventually you will become frustrated and develop the emotion of anger. This anger is then buried in the subconscious making you both stressed and feel symptoms.

Triggers of ME/CFS

You have probably experienced a good day, but after a small activity you were completely drained. It seems there is a lack of energy and this can become a very limiting belief system. Usually it means that your ‘bodymind’ or brain creates a symptom to protect you. Instead of withdrawing yourself from life, back to your bed, it is crucial to find your trigger and release the underlying stress. After a release, you will feel better again. Doing the work tells your brain you are no longer scared.

When a deep and unconscious wound has been triggered, you will feel restless and the fight, flight or hide mechanism will be activated by the nervous system. You will then feel urged to apply a coping mechanism that keeps you wired and extremely stressed. In the program you learn the tools to reverse the negative pattern.

TMS & diversion pain syndrome

Dr Sarno has helped millions of people with ‘bodymind’ symptoms. In order for a bodymind’ symptom to work successfully it wants you to obsess and worry over your symptoms. This means the ‘bodymind’ will try several symptoms before it has found the one symptom that you are most afraid of. People with ME/CFS are people that have reached further than many other people, they have developed a mind that is usually not that much aware of the body. That alone is stressful and when we suddenly get struck by fatigue or pain, we probably feel like we need to listen to our bodies for once. Extreme fatigue might have been the only resource to make us finally listen. Dr Sarno encourages us to not take the symptoms seriously and see them as innocent muscle tensions that create a slight oxygen deprivation in certain parts of the body. As a result we might however feel huge symptoms. In order for our symptoms to fade away we would need to not be afraid of the fatigue and try to listen to our emotional body instead. There are many exercises that can help you get in touch with your unconscious mind. Be open to the possibility that you are very angry deep inside. Maybe because of what others did to you, but most likely of what you did to yourself.